About rape and the attitude of men and women alike

(This is an older post that I had not published but am doing so now)

Lately I have been watching a few documentaries about rape. Yesterday I was watching one called Hunting Humans which is about rape in college. It had a seemingly victorious ending but alas emphasize the word seemingly because nothing has changed since this movie was released nor has it changed in the 35 years since I was raped.

The movie Hunting Humans is specifically about how many girls are being sexually assaulted in college by other students and how when they report it to the school that school tries to pretend it was not that bad or it was her fault blablabla because if it comes out it might affect for instance the football team (very important in the US. money money,money and those players can afford nearly anything even rape women a couple of times and they are still stars) or it affect new students coming to the school but really it is all about money for those schools.


I was thinking about it all and decided I want to do something! .I am so sick of this habitual blaming the victim. look at the world nowadays. On social media it is all about Lgbt, blacks, muslims, we are all trying to do good to and for all those various groups that were being discriminated against but there is one group that is being overlooked. It is just half the population but oh well, and that is women!

Women can be so good to each other but also so cold and judging.

One example was Bill Cosby. When the news came he was being accused by various women including Janice Dickinson) of him raping them so many commentators were blaming those women and a lot of those commentators were women themselves.

It was all “oh they say so because they want his money. They are liars and these were the nice comments! Even though more proof came out that Cosby was a liar and had been doing what they aid he had there were still quite a few who kept on blaming those women.

What is wrong with a world that when you are raped (man or woman) that you immediately think you are the one to blame. You must have done something you should not have. Women think like that because that is how rape is being seen. If you wear sexy clothes it is your own fault apparently.

Now with the muslim community getting bigger and bigger in Europe that does not help at all. it makes it worse. Muslim women have to cover themselves and a lot do that happily I know but it is totally messed up because they have to cover up so not to put their men in temptation? Are these men so weak? If they see a shape of a breast they are tempted?

There is then the contempt for women who do not cover up and are being thought of of whores and sluts and not just thought of but called on the streets through whispers.

But that is another subject.

So I thought let me go and google which is the big international organisation against rape. Not women against rape because a lot of men are against it too and there were a lot of those groups but not an international one. you have the  San Francisco Women Against Rape, the Delaware County Women Against Rape,,the Women Organized Against Rape Philadelphia and so on. Then I thought i had found it a group called Women against rape (as if you could be pro rape!) but then it said it was  aimed at multicultural women. Then you have Stop Rape Now but that is aimed at Sexual violence in conflict, and Stop rape & gender violence in conflict. (most rapes are done by people we know by the way) So all in all many organizations but all so divided. here should be one big international one at least where everybody that wants to fight rape can go. No matter the gender.

It is ridiculous that this problem. (It said that for instance in my country 45 % of women were sexual assaulted) is not one main topic on everybody’s mind. how do we change the way men look at women. How can women change?

Perhaps not much is done really because this problem has so much layers and is not an easy one to solve I do not know but it disgusts me that so many rape victims are being victimized again by the system.

There are so many things going in my mind and I would be so much better if i could express them in my own language but then most could not read it.